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Compassionate online grief care that comes to you.
for Women in CT, FL, MA & ME.

“Grief lasts as long as love lasts.”
- Megan Devine

So why are you treated like there’s something wrong with you?

The experience of losing a loved one is your experience.

No one, no matter how well-meant their intentions, can live it for you.

But can you have at least one place to let your guard down? To stop protecting other people from their discomfort with pain and loss, at the sake of your own needs?

Yes.

Not for one more moment should you have to listen to phrases like these and pretend they don’t leave you shaking and spent: 

  • “At least you had him as long as you did.”

  • “Now you know they’re in a better place.”

  • “But it was just a dog. Aren’t you being a little dramatic?”

  • “When will you be back at work? We understand, but it’s been two weeks.”

  • “I thought I’d be helpful and pack up the baby’s clothes to donate.” 

You deserve a space where you can take a break from the, “at leasts” and “buts” and overstepping of boundaries that hurt no matter how much they’re meant to help.

You deserve at least one person who listens with total presence and compassion. Though I can’t fix death, I won’t treat you or grief like a disease. You get to have your experience of your loss, and to find someone you don’t have to train to be actually supportive and useful.

I will be a skillful companion to help you deal with what comes next. Together, let’s define how bearable or better  look, sound and feel like in your reality.

It’s safe here to come out of hiding, and to talk about how you really feel. I don’t want you to stand  alone with your questions & needs when isolation creates more suffering.

No Matter What You’ve Been Told, You Can’t Fail at Grief.

No one gets to set a timer on your grief or issue a list of tasks, so you can “grieve right, fast enough.” Everyone’s best intentions can go - well you know.

Everyone deserves better than what we’ve come to expect and accept.

At some point, we all experience death. We confront the pain and suffering of the immediate aftermath, as well as the years of living forever without that loved one.

If this is you, then you deserve compassion and support - with no time limits or report cards.

Despite the inevitability of loss, it remains taboo to discuss let alone show. You bear the burden of your pain and performing for others like it’s not there.

And while trying to return to what’s expected of you, you may even question:

  • “Do I have permission to decide the arrangements?”

  • “Is it normal that I can’t cry?”

  • “If I lost my person long ago, is it okay that it still hurts?”

  • “Am I allowed to still talk about them? Even though they died by suicide?”

YES!

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO GRIEVE in your way, always. ... And to find for yourself what possibilities you want to nurture within that grief.

If and no matter when it unfolds, you get to feel better, too - however that shows up. You get to discover and redefine a different life, and find support to create it.

 Connect not only to a resource but a refuge.

HOW GRIEF THERAPY WORKS

Connect. Release. Explore.

I know you’re probably exhausted.
Trying to do the simple tasks of life that now seem not only too hard but often pointless. And you may struggle to keep a mask on - to look “okay” - because we are a society allergic to the reality of loss, the inevitability of vulnerability and death. So along with devastation often comes isolation - just when you need connection the most.

You are unique and your grief is unique.
You deserve someone paying close attention to your story, your needs, and questions while offering compassion and safety. During early grief, maybe you need help surviving well-meaning platitudes while trying to recall why you should care about brushing your teeth or running an errand. I can help you deal with those necessary day-to-day tasks, and those awkward, often uninvited conversations.

Perhaps later on you need hope.
Right now, you may still struggle with feeling like you’re still on the outside looking in at other people who can easily enjoy a meal out or effortlessly laugh. You want so badly to live without an ache in the center of your chest that won’t relent. You crave to have someone hold your hand inside the void, whether it’s been five minutes or fifteen years.

Please accept this invitation to support...
…as you learn to live with a reality forever changed. You can find times of solace, moments of acceptance, and a connected therapist devoted to helping you find your meaning and way forward in this altered world.

Life after loss takes practice, and there’s no reason to do so alone. Practice with a compassionate and collaborative therapist who honors what you’ve experienced and looks at your needs holistically, as you make a different life you never asked for possible. With the right support, what you find may surprise you.

At Counseling Connected, you will work with me, a therapist with personal and specialized experience meeting grief and loss needs. Let’s chat.

Therapy for grief can help you…

  • Understand yourself - the emotional, mental, physical and spiritual ways grief leaves a mark in the early days and beyond - and how that’s unique to you

  • Gain support to figure out how to get through the day-to-day stuff of life, even if your body feels like lead and your memory is offline

  • Safely explore and express the totality of your experience, from the messy to the meaningful - in the present and as it unfolds

  • At your pace, connect to a different sense of what’s possible now, or whatever you find you want and need

Frequently asked questions about grief counseling

FAQs

  • You share your experience and receive support processing your loss. This happens on your timeline and addresses your specific kind of loss. You’ll be able to honor your loved one while finding a way to engage life in a new way. Learn more.

  • Yes. Let me say it again - yes, your loss matters because of how it impacts you and you do not have to justify your grief or explain your pain. Grief can even cause trauma, and you will receive help with that, too. Learn more.

  • Schedule a consultation chat so we can discuss the best way to support you and you can see if it’s an intuitive fit. Learn more.